I am SO with you here.
For years I bleached, colored, fried with heat styling irons, blowdried, product whore....you name it!
After Gastric Bypass and I went through the hair loss stage, my hair was so baby fine to start with that I had to wear wigs because my scalp showed badly. I resembled a cancer patient undergoing chemo therapy. I finally just took a HUGE plunge and shaved my head. So I was GI Jane for a while and just wore wigs or tied scarves around my head when I went into public.
Now that my hair has grown out a little and I don't HAVE to wear wigs, I love adore my natural hair color. It had been so long since I had seen it, I had forgotten how gorgeous it was. So what seemed to be a traumatizing event with the hairloss, actually turned out to be a good thing that is freeing me from coloring, heat styling, perming ALL OF IT forever.
Now I shampoo, condition and let air dry and get my trims every 4-6 weeks and let my hair grow long and silky.
Thank God for wigs because while I don't HAVE to wear them now, my hair is going through that stupid length stage where It looks horrible and I refuse to submit and cut it into a style while I am trying to grow it out. So when there are times that I want to look nice for something I just throw a wig on my head. I will be through this ugly duckling stage before I know it and I will thank myself for it later.
This is seriously a test of patience versus my sheer will and stubborness to want to have long silky hair that is to be envied. I WILL PREVAIL!