Have you tried any of the Its a 10 Miracle Products? To me they are AWESOME BUT EXPENSIVE!!! But so worth it!! Also, believe it or not, I had really dry brittle hair and I use the Dove Shampoo & Conditioner for Dry Brittle Hair, it has hair serum in it and it works wonders, and each is like $6 for a huge bottle!! My hair is really thick though, so you may want to try another of the Dove Hair Shampoo/Conditioner just read each one and it will tell you which is best for your hair type!! YOU have to use condition in your hair when its a mess!! And I also use a leave in like the Its a 10 Miracle Leave In!! I use these 3 The Dove Shampoo, Conditioner, & The its a 10 Miracle Leave In and My Hair is super soft, I try not to blow dry though, and shampoo every 3 days. To me the longer I wait to shampoo the better my hair looks, because of the natural oils in your hair. Ya know somedays, you can just go without shampoo and use the conditioner. I hope this helps!! Theres not much more for your self esteem than a great hair day!!