I'm in the same position as you. I have damaged my hair very badly. I'm gonna get it cut off, but it's already pretty short. I am gonna get it cut to where I can spike it out in the back again. Last time it was growing pretty good, but then I had to over Dye it. Now i've got to do it again. My hair stylist did suggest that I buy some hair Cholestrol. You can find it in Wal-mart or even dollar stores. It comes in a Tub and is normally orange. She said to wash my hair then put lots of it on, cover it with a shower cap and leave it on for a little bit...go ahead and clean house or whatever you need to do, then wash it out. She said to do this one to two times a week for a few weeks. If you plan to dye your hair afterwards, she said to wait a week after you deep condition because the hair dye will not take. This is what she said she does, because she dyes her hair a lot. For a little extra something I always blow dry it for a little bit just to help it penetrate the hair. I hold the dryer up to the shower cap and blow dry it through that. This has worked for me! ~Regina