I don't really know what advice i'm looking for

[melpaganlibran]

dude, to heck with them. I feel kind of fake if I smile and I don't feel it. I've been accused of being stone face, uncaring, even unfriendly even though I am very emotional...it's just that people who don't *really* know me all that well cannot see if I'm upset or happy. I had to force myself to learn to smile more to be approcahable or less an ice queen, don't ask me why. I like, think of something extremely awesome when I am introduced to people I don't know. Or when I must deal with people I am not over keen on. Works like a charm! Hate to admit this but what often got my delighted grin, for pictures or anything, was thinking about rubbing my husband's woody. yeh. XD Or sometimes even really great thai food I had that one time...or a bubble bath...or whatever.

Oh, yeah, and I'm dishonest and shady because I am not over fond of staring someone right in the eyes. I always found it sort of intrusive for lack of better words. my emotional feelings is like, uh...STARING in the eyes is almost accusatory while other people are raised to belive that people who won't look one in the eyes have something to hide.

It's daft, some of the social constructs we are forced to adhere to, and it is a ground ripe for misinterpretations.

needless to say I had to learn to force myself to keep a steady gaze and I still struggle with that even more than the whole fake plastic smile thing. people really do read too much into body language at times.

 

[Sharifa]

I get that a lot, people think I'm sad or mad all the time because when my face is neutral the corners of my mouth turn down and it looks like a frown. I've tried cultivating the "half-smile" and it does seem to work but it's a pain having to be conscious of that all the time. In the future when I could afford it, I'd like to get plastic surgery for it if there is such a procedure! (As long as it didn't make me look freakish)

 

[utmostrose]

I know what you mean

When I was younger, I used to be very intent thinking about things, and my father used to joke saying that he could smell the gears burning lol. People always told me to smile because I used to walk around with a scowl on, but I was really just thinking all the time

So then I would "practice" random smiling, but it was okay to do that since I was just a kid.

But then in junior high and HS when I was only thinking about boys and makeup (sorry guys, but I wasn't thinking about the *art* of makeup, just like "slap some lipstick on! yay!"), I got really ditsy and always had a silly smile on, and then people would give me reactions like Manders', lol. One of my teachers even wrote in my junior high yearbook "Keep smiling, you'll always keep them guessing." (I was so happy because I had a huge crush on him [He looked like Aladdin, from the Disney movie, lol]).

But anyways, since then, I've since balanced out my default face and I'm kinda like whatever I'm thinking, that's what you see, and most people I guess find that to be pretty approachable, since lots of strangers strike up converstations with me, whether I'm in a chatty mood or not (most of the time not).

I guess it all has to do with how open or closed off you let your mind be to the outside world. Then that will determine how readable your face will be to everyone else around you. I think that's what people look for.

 

[makeupjunkie00]

Same here. Some people tell me that too. Sometimes, I just feel like telling them that I'm not mad!! OR SAD!! SOO ANNOYING!!!

 

[speedy]

IMHO that is such a stupid thing to say to someone. No-one walks around with a smile on their face all the time, and if they did they'd look stupid. I say ignore them.

 

[CuTeLiCiOuS]

Wear a shiny lipgloss and a hilighter lol I have the same problem so I don't know what to say.