Goin' braless; don't care.

[anjanasadil]

i'm glad you agree with me LovinPgments!! Here is my current situation. My husband is a doctor who is (at the moment) not working because he is studying for his board exams. I am the bread winner for the time being, hence, i work full time and support us. HOWEVER...(and this may sound strange to some)...i cannot wait for the day when HE is the one who's working and i'm the one who stays at home. I'm proud to say that i am looking forward to being a housewife. Its what i really want. I dont feel that i'm degrading myself or being un-feministic in any way by wanting to be a stay at home wife, because this is a decision that i made for myself, no one 'conformed' me into it,,,and i'm very happy with it. :laughing:

Moreover, about the bra thing. i have B's..and they DEPEND on my pushups and padded bras! hence, the only time these puppies are free is when i'm going to bed. haha. besides, i'm simply ADDICTED to cute/sexy lingerie. i couldn't live without decorative (sp?) bras etc.....but for those women who enjoy and feel confident without a bra,,more power to you!

 

[brewgrl]

let me just tell you that my mother is all about no bra, is 65 and has the perkiest boobies in the world! i think it really has to do with genes.

i am 33, never wear a bra during the summer, and even though i know i get wierd looks every now and then, whatever. that person will forget me in two seconds for the next person walking around breaking some sort of "virtuous" code.

 

[mowgli]

I have gone bra-less a couple of times and actually found the male attention a bit scary...i wear D-cups!

I don't think I could put up with that kind of attention on a daily basis, in that sense, I find the bra liberating...

 

[chantelle8686]

i also have a love of bras!!!! it hides and give a lil sexuality and wondering.

i did also have A's before i had daughter, then after B/F for 3 weeks(milk dried up) i am now a C, i do miss my old bras, but dont miss the smallness of it all(i feel ur pain girls), i still to this day thing they are small due to society but i do go braless whn im at home!!! my self have huge nipples(i noe tmi) but i need the bra to confide them lol!!!

As for the housewife comment, i dunno where u were going with that as i also felt a lil anger when reading!!!!

 

[MindySue]

hows this working for you?

 

[Momo]

I'm doing okay, it's nice because all my bras were stretched out and itchy, and I tried to wear one on a hot day recently, that sucked. I wear nipple petals so it's not a big deal.

I guess so the subject won't die, I'll just rephrase my point:

It's not housewivery that I'm against, it's one thing to earn a place in the home where you're a good mom, etc. But it's different to strive in life to just stay at home. That's what I think is a shame. It's like some girls wait around so they can be supported. What happens when no one takes them up? I don't want to be left skilless and helpess.

Don't get me wrong, being a good parent however you can is an important job. Look at me, I had bad parents.

 

[MindySue]

aw. and you turned out wonderful!

 

[farris2]

good for you then!

 

[sat-chit-ananda]

It's been so many years since I've worn a bra...so much so that I've forgotten what size I used to wear. B, I think... /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" /> And they still stand at attention, click their heels, salute, goose-step...and whatever else breasts are meant to do. ROTFLOL!!!

 

[pinksugar]

momo, more power to you if you feel comfortable not wearing a bra. Personally, mine, as E cups are just way too big to go braless. That being said, I feel like I should say a few things (in the nicest possible way of course! so don't take this as an attack because it's not meant to be that way at all, just a dialogue /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" />)

I know that you don't want to conform to other people's standards or beliefs, but have you considered how you may be percieved by others by not wearing a bra? for example, you may be treated badly at job interviews, within your job, and when in the general public. I'm not saying that I agree with the judgements that they will pass on you, but I do think you have to be aware that some dirty old men may make comments, maybe even try to touch them. (Gross!)

The other thing I just had to say was, that you say that maybe you're being too harsh on them - I'm a feminist, but having feminist beliefs does not exclude me from wanting to be a housewife - if both parties are equally appreciated for their contributions to the household, then it is not a degradation to stay at home.

I just think that it's important to realise that feminism takes many forms, and it is easy to conform to a 'bra burning, career woman' understanding of feminism without realising that it's much bigger than that.

I'm not saying that you have or that you are - I'm just saying be aware that feminism is not at all a simple concept, and I don't think that I should think of myself as intending to be a poor, unenlightened, down trodden little wifie in the future - there is no reason to be ashamed of wanting to stay at home - it makes me tired when people think I should be in some ways pitied for that belief /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" />

I guess I'm just saying that I have respect for your beliefs and your decision to not wear a bra, but don't allow yourself to close your mind to multiple views of feminism!!

 

[AngelaGM]

Hmmm I might invest in some nipple petals myself=)

 

[Momo]

A lot of people obviously missed my point

that's okay

 

[MindySue]

i didnt /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" />

 

[realmccoy]

Right on sister! :rockwoot:

 

[han]

what does not wearing/wearing a bra have to do with confoming/non conforming? i dont understand.. i do understand the comfort and desire to go braless as i do most days but i have fake boobs that arent sagging to my knees.. but out of respect for my lil boys and other people and myself i do wear bras so im not flashing them.. when i go braless i have to wear a tank top underneath so my nipples arent flashing everyone because i have had guys in the past say stuff like your highbeams are on or you must be cold...lol

 

[MissOli]

nothing wrong with not wearing a bra..do the same from time to time(not very often)

Do some wear it when they go to bed? Odd for me...I guess I would do it if i hade some HUGE ones that made my back hurt...but then again it's personal.

And who cares about how other feel or look at u when u don't have a bra..it should be about u...what u want and feel and not how others might feel. But then again it should be done in a respectful way /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" />

You go girl! :rockwoot:

 

[beautynista]

The choice to wear/not wear a bra is entirely extraneous to feminism. Women have breasts, men don't..so women wear bras to support them. Men have penises, women don't...so men wear jockstraps and boxers to support them. Quite simple.

If you're blessed with perky breasts, then rock on without bras!

 

[AprilRayne]

I'd be willing to bet that most high powered executive women have a really sexy bra under there suit! How is that conforming??

 

[emily_3383]

I think its fine that you dont want to wear a bra but it has nothing to do with feminism.

 

[Savvy_lover]

the world are made of boxes. no matter where u go u just come from one box to another. while trying to be everyone its a way of conforming and the same for trying to be different is also a way to conforming. as long as she finds a way to express her view its her personal choice .i support you go braless if u like /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" />