Is your family affectionate?

[pinksugar]

My family was always quite affectionate, but only within the family group, I think my parents feel awkward with social affection, like hugging or kissing friends.

When I got to high school my friends were always air kissing me or hugging me and it took a while before I was comfortable with that, because our family was quite closed outside of ourselves, if you know what I mean?

I still don't like kissing new people (especially men) on the cheek. Ugh. Makes me uncomfortable.

 

[heartofdarkness]

My parents were only affectionate when I was extremely young, and after that, it somehow became awkward and tense, especially between me and my mother. She even once said, at a family gathering, that when I was born, she was holding me in my arms after coming round from aneasthetic and said 'what the hell is this?', and that when she held my younger brother for the first time, she felt the maternal bond right away. My brother was always the family favourite, and would get away with murder and blame me for it. Since moving to the other end of the country, things have been better, but are still strained. When I get phone calls from them, I feel really nervous and uneasy for some reason.

 

[sweetnsexy6953]

My family is affectionate. It was hugs, kisses, i love you's all the time when I was growing up. Even now when I see my parents for the first time in like a yr its all that over again. My rents say I love you and miss you like 5x on the phone bf we hang up. Now that I have a daughter I want to do the same. Even tho shes a month n a half Im starting to hug n kiss n tell her I love her all the time cuz I want her to grow up into a loving home and family.

 

[Hukilau]

My family was not affectionate. The extent of the affection was I would get whacked and then my mom would hug me afterwards saying she was sorry...very confusing.

 

[Chaeli]

I don't believe there ever was love and affection in many generations prior to either one of my parents generation as there sure was none given to me. I had several failed relationships prior to the one I am in now and maybe it was my fault. I dunno. I just know that my current family is very loving and affectionate and always looking for a reason to have a close family get together and you might say, I found what I was missing and looking for.

 

[bCreative]

Nope.....

 

[Arcat]

sometimes it depends

 

[perlanga]

My family is the most non-affectionate of all time. It really rubbed off on me, I don't like to give hugs at all, only to my bf or if I havn't seen someone in a while. I've gotten better over time, but I made a pledge to myself the day I have kids I'll be affectionate w/ them, but not too over the top. I don't like too much of that stuff I think it's cheesy.

My bf's fam is very affectionate and I went to visit his parents one time. His mom kinda scolded me and said I should be more affectionate with him, which really bugged me. I told her respectfully that some of the stuff they do in their family (kissing girlfriends in front of parents/sitting on laps/girlfriend randomly visiting/etc.) would be extremely disrespectful in my family. I don't think that what they do is disrespectful, but families are different. I just don't feel right doing those things because I was raised to do those things in private.

My bf tells me that in his fam guys kiss in-laws on the cheek. I made sure he knew not to do that to my mom when he first meet her, because there would be drama! LOL