Hypothetical Situation of the Day - September 3rd

[JennyMcL]

I really do agree about the one unit thing. Together with them or together apart if its practical.

 

[PaperFlowers]

That's really freakin ******! (And yes I'm taming down the language here so you get the picture anyway.)

I would never agree to it. I'd just find someone willing to accept myself and myself as 1 entity, because you're partners. He shouldn't let you be treated like that and honey you shouldn't stand for it either. You deserve better. Much better.

Lots of love and hugs to you...PM me or IM me if you want to talk.

 

[farris2]

Thats just insane.I dont know what I would do.

 

[kalindaxchemica]

My significant other would find a motel with me.

If they weren't nice like that, they wouldn't be my significant other =P

 

[ticki]

i say either both of you stay there or neither of you stay there. if they stand firm on that decision then a simple "thanks but no thanks" would work. definitely try to get to the bottom of this, but if you're gonna have to live somewhere else he definitely needs to join you.

 

[monniej]

then we both don't go! i'd have a real problem with hubby if he decided to stay some place that i wasn't welcome. jmho~

 

[moonlightmysts]

I think that since you are married then you should definitely find somewhere else to stay together.

Although I don't know the reasons you are moving, I would go a step farther, and seriously reconsider moving to be near people seem not to consider you family, and seem not to want you around.

I think that your husband's parents are putting you into this situation to drive you apart, and I think that if you move there things will only get worse.

Do you want to put yourself in a situation where your husband will constantly have to choose between you and his mother?

If you live farther away, the tensions between you will be noticeable, but they may not affect your marriage.

If all of you live in the same town, it will be much more obvious when he seems to be choosing his mother over you, and even if he isn't doing that, the fact that they aren't willing to have you in their home will put stress on your marriage.

If your husband does decide to stay with his parents, I would definitely check on your visitation rights - can you visit whenever you want too, do you have to have their permission, and are they going to be trying to set him up with other women when you're not around (just kidding, trying to bring some lightness to the post)?

If you aren't allowed to visit on a reasonable basis, find somewhere to stay together, and if they say one thing, then change their minds about you visiting after he moves in then he needs to immediately move out to be with you so his parent will not negatively affect your relationship.

I hope everything works out ok for you and your husband, and you'll both be happy for a long, long time .

 

[flychick767]

Originally Posted by AngelaGM /img/forum/go_quote.gif You could try to invite your MIL out to lunch or whatever to discuss this situation? Great idea. You really should sit down with her and talk it out. The first time I met my future MIL, she said some things to me that I did not like, but now we get along fine.
Please take the first step, and keep us informed.

 

[Shelley]

It is very hurtful that you are not invited to stay at their place. I agree with the others, the two of you either stay at their place or together at a hotel/motel. You are a unit and it is not fair of his parents to split you up.

Like others mentioned,I would invite your MIL out for lunch and find out what is going on. It's not fair for you to be put through all of this.

I hope things work out for you Kee. Please keep us updated. Hugs to you.

 

[pinkbundles]

Wow! That is very rude of them if that's the case! I hope your husband didn't take it lightly when they said that and gave them **** for even suggesting something like that! You are your husbands' wife, which makes you their daughter-in-law! How dare they treat you that way! I would tell them to shove it up their *beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep*!!! And go elsewhere!

 

[Maysie]

Wow, did they actually say this to your husband or directly to you? I can't imagine any good reason they had for saying this...even if it was a money issue they should consider you and your husband one person...it doesn't make sense for them to care for him and not you, since your lives are joined now. I would also say to ask your MIL about it if you want to keep a relationship with her...otherwise you might be resentful later (and rightfully so!!)