Unfortunately, patience is what it's going to take as well as a good hair care regimen. I used to over process my hair between relaxing and coloring it. Eventually I had to lay off the color and stop using so many heating tools to try to strengthen it and get it back to a sense of a healthy state. I recommend using HealthySexyHair shampoo, conditioner and leave-in treatment. In conjunction, make sure you're getting your ends trimmed every 6-8 weeks (or every 4-6). QUIT coloring your hair as well! Find one color close to your natural color, and dye it once. Then stop! Also, if you use the blow dryer a lot (or curling irons and flat irons), then try your best to NOT use them! Air dry your hair first, and then run the blow dryer through it on a low/cool setting. Try to use steam rollers to curl, or flat iron less frequently while using a heat protectant. This has helped me a tremendous amount! My hair is the healthiest it's been in ages, and my split ends aren't anywhere NEAR as bad as they were! Best of luck, and I hope that helped some!