Mole on upper lip - keep or remove?

[talara88]

So I've had a mole on my upper lip for my whole life. My family think it's adorable and say it makes me unique, but I'm worried guys will find it disgusting and makes me uglier.

Can you guys give your opinions? Please be honest, as I'm so close to booking the appointment!

Obviously excuse the purple blotches haha..



Thanks!!!!!

 

[Dragonfly]

You could always make an appointment and let the derm help you decide what to do.

You have very nice hair, by the way.

 

[divadoll]

In my opinion, I would book an appt to remove.  The mole is in a distracting location that detracts from how pretty you are.  

 

[EmmySunshine]

Wow, your hair is really nice! love the highlights.

I agree, i think you should make an appointment, but decide with the experts. I would say keep it, but like divadoll said, the placement is a bit distracting.

 

[Its Only Nicole]

IMHO.. I would get it checked out.. just for health reason like cancer or whatever.. but..

It's part of you, part of who you are.. I think its very unique and VERY beautiful.  If guys find it "disgusting" you don't want to be w/that guy anyways.. For years and years I have hated the dimple in my chin because its soo much deeper than most others.. but now.. I love it..

No one else really has one like one.. it makes me me.. I wouldn't change my chin ever.  If people are that superficial to get distracted by your mole and not see past it.. you don't really need them either!

 

[divadoll]

I think an Ideal World, it would be great however, in this world, beauty = perfection and there are many advantages to being flawless.  You are young and just starting out in this world. People generally give more advantages to the beautiful people.  They are willing to help a cute girl in need versus an not so attractive one.  The cute girl is perceived to be more friendly, knowledgeable, a better candidate than a less attractive one.  Why would you need to think about having to find someone who can look past it if you just get it removed?  
 

Originally Posted by Its Only Nicole /img/forum/go_quote.gif

IMHO.. I would get it checked out.. just for health reason like cancer or whatever.. but..

It's part of you, part of who you are.. I think its very unique and VERY beautiful.  If guys find it "disgusting" you don't want to be w/that guy anyways.. For years and years I have hated the dimple in my chin because its soo much deeper than most others.. but now.. I love it..

No one else really has one like one.. it makes me me.. I wouldn't change my chin ever.  If people are that superficial to get distracted by your mole and not see past it.. you don't really need them either!

 

[Its Only Nicole]

What you are saying is completely superficial.  Who CARES what other people think?  Why try to remove/fix "flaws" just to be "Perfect"?  What YOU see as flaws.. I see as beauty.  Who wants to be GENERIC?  Its part of who you really are.  I still, obviously, stand by what I said earlier.. IN MY OPINION.. I would just get it checked out because of melanoma.. but thats it.  Shes still the same pretty girl w/the mole.  I, however, think it makes her more attractive.  You can live in a world where prettier people have more advantages.. but I prefer to live in the REAL world where you get what you get because of how much you actually work for it.

The whole thing I was saying about looking past it.. is the straight up truth.  Why would you want to be with someone who would judge you because of a mole on your face?  I think you would be BETTER OFF not being around those types of people...

But..

Thats just what I think.
 

Originally Posted by divadoll /img/forum/go_quote.gif

I think an Ideal World, it would be great however, in this world, beauty = perfection and there are many advantages to being flawless.  You are young and just starting out in this world. People generally give more advantages to the beautiful people.  They are willing to help a cute girl in need versus an not so attractive one.  The cute girl is perceived to be more friendly, knowledgeable, a better candidate than a less attractive one.  Why would you need to think about having to find someone who can look past it if you just get it removed?  
 

 

[divadoll]

Superficial it may be but you only have 1 chance to make a good first impression.  First impressions are usually all it takes for many companies to hire you and people to want to come talk to you or come to your aid when you are stranded sitting on the curb when your car breaks down.  

 

[Its Only Nicole]

How sad that you can't think your resume and career won't have an impact as well.  Most people wouldn't be stranded sitting on a curb if there car broke down also.. I would hope they had some common sense and either..

A. Call someone they knew that can help..

B. Walked somewhere to get help rather than wait on others

or

C.  Try and fix the problem themselves..
 

Originally Posted by divadoll /img/forum/go_quote.gif

Superficial it may be but you only have 1 chance to make a good first impression.  First impressions are usually all it takes for many companies to hire you and people to want to come talk to you or come to your aid when you are stranded sitting on the curb when your car breaks down.  

 

[divadoll]

Me?  My resume means nothing now.  I have worked for the Canadian government agency for 12 yrs.  I have no employable skills in the outside world.  There are many psychological studies of the halo effect of good looking people.  They are perceived to be better qualified than an average or less than average looking person.  It may not be logical but that is reality.  I've spent a few times times in my early 20s sitting on the curb waiting for my dad to come get me.  (My dad had failed to replace the cog pin on my rear passenger wheel and my wheel fell off)  It's nice to get a lot of men stopping to offer their help even though help is on the way.  I did get a ride from someone when my car broke down at night when I was a pizza delivery driver.  The man that gave me a ride said he walked along the freeway for 2 hrs to get to a gas station because no one would help him.  Cute can do alot despite how ideally things should work.  

Originally Posted by Its Only Nicole /img/forum/go_quote.gif

How sad that you can't think your resume and career won't have an impact as well.  Most people wouldn't be stranded sitting on a curb if there car broke down also.. I would hope they had some common sense and either..

A. Call someone they knew that can help..

B. Walked somewhere to get help rather than wait on others

or

C.  Try and fix the problem themselves..
 

 

[Its Only Nicole]

If your resume means nothing.. then I would work on trying to expand it and have needed skills.  I agree its always nice to look your best for interviews, but you are really getting off topic here now.  Telling a girl to get a mole removed that is not causing her any problems because to you.. it detracts from her beauty... advising for UNNEEDED cosmetic surgery.

But its nice to know how you are encouraging the way of the superficial instead of just loving yourself for who you are.
 

Originally Posted by divadoll /img/forum/go_quote.gif

Me?  My resume means nothing now.  I have worked for the Canadian government agency for 12 yrs.  I have no employable skills in the outside world.  There are many psychological studies of the halo effect of good looking people.  They are perceived to be better qualified than an average or less than average looking person.  It may not be logical but that is reality.  I've spent a few times times in my early 20s sitting on the curb waiting for my dad to come get me.  (My dad had failed to replace the cog pin on my rear passenger wheel and my wheel fell off)  It's nice to get a lot of men stopping to offer their help even though help is on the way.  I did get a ride from someone when my car broke down at night when I was a pizza delivery driver.  The man that gave me a ride said he walked along the freeway for 2 hrs to get to a gas station because no one would help him.  Cute can do alot despite how ideally things should work.  

 

[divadoll]

It's something that came to her mind before anyone elses.  I'm not here to provide motherly advice, just something that may benefit her.  

 

[eLLah]

It's up to you what you want to do. My bf has a big mole on the upper left corner of his lip... but it doesn't bother him (or me) at all... I know he is a guy and it's different, but at the end of the day you should do what will make you happier and more comfortable... 

 

[sheridong]

I think you should do whatever feels right for you.  If it bothers you why not get it removed?  If it doesn't leave it /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" /> you'll be fine either way, it's solely your decision.  If it were me personally, i'd probably have it removed cause it would just annoy me haha.  I have a large mole on my right shoulder I may have removed one day.  It's just big and weird and i don't like it.  Whatever you decide good luck!

 

[shussh]

I have one in the exact same place...!!!

 

[satojoko]

Jeezuz.....I simply cannot stomach some people's attitudes.....frightening & appalling at the same time. Nicole, if you're around, just wanted to let you know I agree with you 100% x 10,000, even though the original post was made long ago. I sincerely hope that this person didn't go ahead with the procedure she was contemplating & that she flipped the bird at those who had recommended otherwise. I would also hope that if it was my daughter coming to a forum asking for serious advice such as this, that she would first come across you, and that listening to your advice would result in her canceling her plans to have her face altered. We need more mothers & women in the world like you.

 

[talara88]

Thank you all - I did not do it /emoticons/[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" />